CONCEPT THREE OF: How to kill yourself by living
Too often we find ourselves, or rather, we put ourselves into routines. They become familiar, and as such, comfortable, even if they are unpleasant. These routines begin dictating our lives, and when we deviate, we feel uncomfortable and agitated on a subconscious level. Many of these routines are not even healthy or beneficial, like watching TV. It becomes necessary to watch a certain amount, it becomes addicting to watch certain shows.
Comfort zones can also be people and relationships. Many times, families become under stress when you get into too many routines, many of which involve fighting or blaming. Stepping outside the norm will usually help. A couple with difficulties may “fall back in love” after a trip or vacation, or even just going out on a date, breaking their usual patterns.
Humans are constantly classifying and organizing everything in their lives. We learn it from early childhood, by naming things. It is human nature. We call or name something to give it rules, to understand it or to define it with a purpose, and organize these things into groups. We continue this behavior in every aspect of our lives, and only by looking at things differently, or changing our habits, do we find the magic of the world.
We go to work because we want to survive and thrive. We want to eat, live comfortably, and fill our lives with things. We opt for many new tangible “somethings” over an extended vacation or travel. Sure, we dream of travel, and may even do some, however, most times traveling is only location based. Many times we will take trips like cruises, or “all inclusive”, visiting these wondrous places almost like we are watching TV… we are there, but we are disconnected. We buy these things, we visit these “safe” and “known” places, and we feel a small amount of gratification. That gratification is fleeting, however, and we slip back into our comfort zones, and dwell in prisons we constructed ourselves.
Step outside your comfort zone
Do things you normally wouldn’t do, that make you feel uncomfortable, and that may even help someone else! When waiting in line, connect with someone! Don’t worry, you don’t have to talk for too long, and keep the conversation light, but you will be amazed how easy it is to do, and how you can make someones day out of it. This is just an example, one you could start today, but what’s important is to become aware of what you are doing, and if you find it is not making you happy, change it up. This doesn’t mean quit your job, kick out your dead beat teenager, this means change the nature of the relationship with the stress factor. Spend time doing something new with your partner, and you will discover new joys in the same old same old.
Some will take more drastic steps and relocate. This is a great thing to do, but be careful you are doing it for the right reasons. If you plan to move, embrace the new area or culture, don’t try to bring your comfort zone with you. Try new things, be present, and step outside the mundane!