Learn Something

We have the ability to learn.  Our brains are wired to continually want new stimulation, new experiences, new sensations.  We yearn to learn, and yet unless the process is forced on us, we choose to do what we know.

During our childhood and adolescence, we have structured learning, and are taught many of the basics to survive in our respective societies.  We learn about many things to prepare us to enter society on our own, and once we do so, we stop the process.  We fall into routines, we do what we must and no more.

One of the best ways to rediscover your true self is to learn something new.  We may at first feel uncomfortable, but generally will thrive during the experience.  Many people enjoy nature shows and documentaries.  If you are going to watch television, this may be your best choice, but you really don’t have to do anything, and as such, after the show, you may glean a few tidbits of information, and go back to your routine.

Many will try to learn top play an instrument, or a new language, but if it is self guided, we soon put it off, leave it in the closet, and hope to make it up later.  As time passes, this becomes easier to do, and harder to keep up, and any initiative is lost.  A structured environment is easier to maintain.  There are many classes at local recreation centres, and community halls, which are very reasonably priced.  To learn a language, try to find a native speaker and “trade” lessons for your language.  You may also make some new friends!

The idea is to create a new aspect of your life, you will either enjoy it, or try something else, but at least you gave it a shot, and are better for the experience.  As you begin to learn the new thing, you will start to crave more, and it may just help keep you young!  Some recent studies have shown that continued learning may actually stave off brain diseases like Alzheimer’s and even slow down memory loss.

Step outside your comfort zone

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Too often we find ourselves, or rather, we put ourselves into routines.  They become familiar, and as such, comfortable, even if they are unpleasant.  These routines begin dictating our lives, and when we deviate, we feel uncomfortable and agitated on a subconscious level.  Many of these routines are not even healthy or beneficial, like watching TV.  It becomes necessary to watch a certain amount, it becomes addicting to watch certain shows.

Comfort zones can also be people and relationships.  Many times, families become under stress when you get into too many routines, many of which involve fighting or blaming.  Stepping outside the norm will usually help.  A couple with difficulties may “fall back in love” after a trip or vacation, or even just going out on a date, breaking their usual patterns.

Humans are constantly classifying and organizing everything in their lives.  We learn it from early childhood, by naming things.  It is human nature.  We call or name something to give it rules, to understand it or to define it with a purpose, and organize these things into groups.  We continue this behavior in every aspect of our lives, and only by looking at things differently, or changing our habits, do we find the magic of the world.

We go to work because we want to survive and thrive.  We want to eat, live comfortably, and fill our lives with things.  We opt for many new tangible “somethings” over an extended vacation or travel.  Sure, we dream of travel, and may even do some, however, most times traveling is only location based.  Many times we will take trips like cruises, or “all inclusive”, visiting these wondrous places almost like we are watching TV… we are there, but we are disconnected.  We buy these things, we visit these “safe” and “known” places, and we feel a small amount of gratification.  That gratification is fleeting, however, and we slip back into our comfort zones, and dwell in prisons we constructed ourselves.

Step outside your comfort zone

Do things you normally wouldn’t do, that make you feel uncomfortable, and that may even help someone else!  When waiting in line, connect with someone! Don’t worry, you don’t have to talk for too long, and keep the conversation light, but you will be amazed how easy it is to do, and how you can make someones day out of it.  This is just an example, one you could start today, but what’s important is to become aware of what you are doing, and if you find it is not making you happy, change it up.  This doesn’t mean quit your job, kick out your dead beat teenager, this means change the nature of the relationship with the stress factor.  Spend time doing something new with your partner, and you will discover new joys in the same old same old.

Some will take more drastic steps and relocate.  This is a great thing to do, but be careful you are doing it for the right reasons.  If you plan to move, embrace the new area or culture, don’t try to bring your comfort zone with you.  Try new things, be present, and step outside the mundane!